Proverbs 6:27-29,  Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned (blistered)?  Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned (blistered)?  So he that goeth in to his neighbourís wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.

What is the probability of these results?

If you bring fire to your chest will it ignite your clothes?

If you take your shoes and socks off and stand on hot coals can you expect to get off those coals without your feet being burned and blistered?

The answer most assuredly is that your clothes will burn and your feet will blister.

The message here is that the lusting after her beauty in the heart will bring as sure a result as fire does to clothes and body and hot coals does to the feet.

For whatsoever a man soweth that shall he also reap.

How important it is for a father to impress upon his son the principle that sin and punishment are fundamentally linked together.

One is to not exist without the other.

God spoke to the first couple in the Garden of Eden this very fact when he said in: Gen 2:17, But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.

You sow death and you reap death.

God has spoken, the wages of sin is death.

There is always a price to pay for sin.

God is just and his justice always exacts a price for sin.

Someone has to pay!

Therefore to allow a son to sin without chastisement is to go against this principle of God.

An expression of godliness in the home is to not let sin go unpunished.

And to lessen this principle in the mind of a child is to encourage or to allow sin and the lusts of the flesh to procede without price.

It will encourage thinking that there is not a payday for sin.

If you want to elevate what Christ has done in paying for sin then this principle of sowing and reaping must be fully taught in the home.

If fully taught in the home then the value of the sacrifice that Christ has made for the son will be fully realized and will be cherished and greatly valued.

How hard it is for anyone to realize that they need a savior when they have no idea that sin has wages that a just God demands be paid.

Only by knowing the wages of sin will a person understand how valuable is Godís grace.

Continuing this theme this proverbs father says in: 


Proverbs 6:27-29,  Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned (blistered)?  So he that goeth in to his neighbourís wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.

He warns the son of the wages of adultery.

He has warned him to not lust after her beauty.

He has said to the son that the evil woman has the power to take him with her eyelids.

Yielding to her eyelids, a symbol and tool of her guile and letting the lust of her beauty capture, will result in touch.

There is a road of life upon which the directional road signs read as lust followed by temptation, enticement, conception, sin, and death.

James describes this path in James 1:14, But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

Donít blame temptation for tempation comes by letting lust have its way.

That is why this father tells his son to not lust after her beauty for he knows where sin begins, it begins in the heart.

There is no such excuse as the devil made me do it.

The devil may be involved in temptation but lust is from within.


The word touch in this passage in the Hebrew means to lie with a woman.

It does not simply mean to touch as a hand touches another hand.

And "Shall not be innocent" means to be go unpunished.

whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent means: Whosoever lieth with her shall not be unpunished.

There is always a price to pay for fornication and adultery.

Abimelech, the king of Gerar, almost had to pay the ultimate price because Abraham and Sara deceived him into thinking that Sara was not a married woman.

Abraham connived with Sara in order to save his own skin while he was in a place away from the land that God had promised.

You can be sure that youíll be faced with plotting your own solutions to things when you are not in the place that God has appointed for you.

But God by his grace and his love for Abraham and Sara, intervened and stopped Abimelech and Sara from sining.

We are told in Gen.20:3-7, But God came to Abimelech in a dream by night, and said to him, Behold, thou art but a dead man, for the woman which thou hast taken; for she is a manís wife. 4But Abimelech had not come near her: and he said, Lord, wilt thou slay also a righteous nation? Said he not unto me, She is my sister? and she, even she herself said, He is my brother: in the integrity of my heart and innocency of my hands have I done this. And God said unto him in a dream, Yea, I know that thou didst this in the integrity of thy heart; for I also withheld thee from sinning against me: therefore suffered I thee not to touch her. Now therefore restore the man his wife; for he is a prophet, and he shall pray for thee, and thou shalt live: and if thou restore her not, know thou that thou shalt surely die, thou, and all that are thine.

Godís price for touching Sara was death.

Proverbs 6:27-29,  Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned (blistered)?  So he that goeth in to his neighbourís wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.

God is faithful and God has created all in his creation to be faithful.

The sun and the moon and the stars are faithful in their courses.

The seasons are faithful to their times.

All of nature, both the flora and the fauna, are faithful to that which God has given them to do.

Season after season they are faithful to their God given duty.

But man, with his sinful nature is not faithful.

Man is a rebel against faithfulness.

But God will only allow the faithful to dwell with him throughout the endless ages of eternity.

As Paul wrote in I Corinthians 4:2, Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.

Only the faithful will be with God.

And in this light we are told in this passage of Proverbs 6 that adultery is alien to faithfulness and therefore under the wrath of God.

So he that goeth in to his neighbourís wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.

Adultery is the antithesis, the direct opposite of faithfulness.

And God says thou shalt not covet thy neighborís wife.

But with every "Thou shalt not" issued from the mouth of God there also comes a "Thou shalt".

God never leaves us hanging without solution to a dilemma.

Godís solution for not touching, or not committing fornication, for not committing adultery, is marriage.

Marriage is Godís plan, fornication is manís plan.

Marriage requires faithfulness, fornication requires faithlessness.

As Paul writes in: 1 Corinthians 6:18-7:5, and amplified in the Amplified Bible

Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

Do you know that your body is the temple (the very sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you? Whom you have received {as a gift} from God? You are not your own.

You were bought with a price {purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own}. So then, honor God and bring glory to Him in your body.

Now as to the matters of which you wrote me. It is well {and by that I mean advantageous, expedient, profitable, and wholesome} for a man not to touch a woman {to cohabit with her} but to remain unmarried.

But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each {man} have his own wife and let each {woman} have her own husband.

The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights (goodwill, kindness, and what is due her as his wife), and likewise the wife to her husband.

For the wife does not have [exclusive] authority and control over her own body, but the husband {has his rights}; likewise also the husband does not have [exclusive] authority and control over his body, but the wife [has her rights].

Do not refuse and deprive and defraud (to withhold wrongfully from another what is due) each other {of your due marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.

Marriage, with its intimate relations, then is the only plan that God has for a man and a woman and any intimate relations outside of Godís plan will result in punishment.

But intimate relations within marriage are not to be hindered by the husband nor the wife lest Satan come into the picture to tempt either party to be unfaithful.

There is to be a faithfulness in intimate relations inside of marriage so that there is not unfaithfulness in intimate relations outside of marriage.

Each one is not to exercise authority over his or her body completely but is to allow the other to exercise authority over his or her body in these matters.

It is to be a sacrifice of love for the other.

Although this is a difficult subject to teach it is important to teach, for the sake of strong marriages that promote faithfulness.

This is practical teaching that Paul gives as he recognizes the lack of self restraint in these matters.

The lack of self restraint is to be contained within marriage.

Paul recognized the strong forces that exist in the human frame.

And marriage is given of God to allow for those forces.

For intimate, sexual relations outside of marriage is fornication and forbidden by God for those kind of relations are alien to faithfulness.

Fornication is not to be known among the saints as we read in:

1 Thessalonians. 4:3-5,  For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; Not in the lust of concupiscence, (a longing desire, lust (after) (especially for what is forbidden) even as the Gentiles which know not God:

Knowing God then, makes all the difference and this father intends for his son to know God.

To know God is the greatest strength against sin, including fornication.

He continues his instruction by a comparison of two crimes.

What is the difference between stealing and committing adultery?

Both stealing and adultery are sins but there is a much different observation of them on the part of men.

He says in Proverbs 6:30,31, Men do not despise a thief, if he steal to satisfy his soul when he is hungry; But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; he shall give all the substance of his house.

Here he supposes that a man steals because he is hungry.

Hunger is surely an appetite and must be satisfied if life is to continue and the desire that life continue may drive a man to steal.

Hunger is not a lust, a satisfaction of a carnal appetite.

But a man who steals bread to satisfy his hunger will not be despised but will be pitied.

The stealing of bread can be somewhat undone by restoration in accordance with the law.

If the man be found he shall restore sevenfold; and if he cannot do that he shall give all the substance of his house.

This is understood by all men and understood by the man who thinks there is no way out except to steal bread.

He stole bread to satisfy his soul.

Proverbs 6:32-33, But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.

The understanding here is that there is no restoration for adultery.

There is nothing that can be restored.

Repair cannot take place.

It is Humpty Dumpty falling off the wall and all the kings horses and all the kings men could not put him back together again.

Drop an uncooked egg on the floor.

Can it be restored to its former wholeness?

Stealing is sin but it has in it a possibility of restoration, but adultery has nothing in it that lends itself to restoration.

Adultery is faithlessness and faithlessness cannot be recovered or restored.

Adultery is the apostasy from the marriage vows.

Faithlessness has in it the destruction of the soul.

The finality of adultery is talked about in Chapter seven of Proverbs.

The lack of restoration is pictured by an ox going to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks.

It is pictured as a dart striking through his liver.

As a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life.